有着敏锐感知力的孩子往往在智力、创造力以及情商方面比其他孩子更有优势和天赋，他们在年纪很小的时候，就表现出富有很强的同情心。但同时，这些感知能力极强的孩子常常会因为拥挤、吵闹、新的环境、突然的改变和他人的情绪变化而受到影响。
With a sharpened sense of awareness, these children are often gifted intellectually, creatively,and emotionally, demimportgenuine compassion at early ages. The downside is that these intensely perceptive kids can also get overwhelmed easily by crowds, noises, new situations, sudden changes, and the emotiimportdistress of others.
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接受 / Acceptance:
接受你的孩子，是需要做的第一步。很多家长在面对自己高度敏感的孩子时，希望有人能帮助他们改变孩子，让孩子变得不那么敏感，但我做不到这一点，而且你也做不到。无论你自己是否属于高度敏感人群，都需要把孩子的敏感度当作一种天赋特质来看待，然后选择接受它，并开始一段新的旅途。因为这才是接触和认识这个情形的正确方式。
Embracing your children as highly sensitive children is step one. Many parents bring me highly sensitive children to "change" them into less sensitive, but I cannot do that. You cannot do that either. Being able to see their sensitivity as a gift and accept it as part of your shared journey - whether you are highly sensitive or not - this is the way to think and approach the situation.
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配合孩子/Partner With Children
太过严厉的纪律会激发出逃避行为，比如情绪崩溃及能量爆发（例如：发脾气，哭，喊叫等）。成人需要与孩子进行合作，例如，了解像拥挤这类会促使他们情绪变化的诱因，从而适当避免这类情况的发生，并在孩子受到外界影响而不知所措时，教会他们排解的方法，如深呼吸练习。
Harsh discipline can elicit the exact behavior you are trying to avoid like emotiimportmeltdowns and outbursts of energy (e.g., temper tantrums, crying, yelling, etc.). Partnering with your children includes learning their triggers and also giving them tools when they feel overwhelmed like breathing exercises.
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转移注意力/Switching Gears
将孩子的注意力引导到另一个活动上，这也是一种比较有效的方法。如果你的孩子很爱哭，当他感觉眼泪快要流下来的时候，你可以让他大声数数，从一数到十。孩子还只有三岁或者四岁的时候， 数数仍然需要一定的专注力。所以，等孩子数到十时，让他伤心的事情也就被淡忘了。
再次，问问孩子什么才是真正让他们感到不开心的事情，这样你就可以帮助他们找到补救措施。经常问问孩子：“怎样才能让你感觉好一点点呢？”如果这个问题难住了孩子，请提醒一些平时可以让他感觉开心的事情。比如，邀请自己的朋友来玩或者看一本最喜欢的图片书。通过一些小练习，他会很快地开始自己思考解决办法，而不用从大人那里得到提示。
Distracting your children by guiding them to another activity is also a powerful tool. For children who cry a lot, they can be taught to count to ten out loud when they feel tears coming. At age three or four, counting still takes focus and concentration, so whatever was upsetting your children may feel like old news by the time they get to ten.
Again, ask your children exactly what made them unhappy to help them find a remedy. Always ask them, “What can you do to make yourself feel better?” If your children are stumped for ideas, remind them of things that make them feel good, like inviting friends over to play or looking at a favorite picture book. With a little practice, children will soon start coming up with solutions without any alerting from an adult.
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温和的纪律/Gentle Discipline
就算孩子高度敏感，也不代表他们不需要遵守规定，可以不受任何约束地生活。温和地给孩子制定一些行为规则，在尊重的基础上设置一些约束是一条很长的路。比如，如果Jenna该睡觉了却拒绝去床上休息，你也许可以这样说：“宝贝，我理解你想玩儿一整晚，但现在是睡觉时间。你需要休息，而且我们也说好了晚上八点是睡觉时间，现在正好八点了。请做好准备去睡觉吧。”这是一个采用温和的语气来指引孩子遵守纪律的例子，而不是利用过激的行为与喊叫的方式。
Just because your children are highly sensitive doesn’t mean they don't need structure and limits in their life. Being able to give your children gentle structure and clear limits with respect goes a long way. For example, if it’s Jenna's bedtime and she is resisting, you might say, "Sweetheart, I realize you want to play all night, but it's time for bed. You need your rest, and we have agreed to an 8:00pm bedtime, and it’s 8:00pm. Please start getting ready for bed." This is an example of gentle discipline versus spanking and yelling.
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适宜的反应/ The Right Reactions
避免迫切地要求孩子停止哭泣，这样可能会让他哭得更久。极度敏感的学龄前儿童非常善于读懂他们父母的情绪。比如当你紧张的时候，这个表现会让你的孩子解读为任何让他心烦意乱的事情都是值得被关注的。而这是你最不愿意看到的情景。有一种可以帮助孩子控制好情绪的方法，就是用开玩笑的方式说“ 结冰！”这个词会帮助孩子停住并重新调整自己。然后，你可以告诉孩子做一个深呼吸，然后，像一条飞龙一样将气从嘴里吹出来。
Avoid the urge to tell them to stop crying, which will probably trigger more tears. Hypersensitive preschoolers are very good at reading their parents’ emotions. If you get tense, it tells your children that whatever is upsetting them is something to get worked up on. This models the very behavior you are trying to change. One way to help children get cimportof their emotions is by playfully telling them, “Freeze!” Freezing helps them stop and collect themselves. Then suggest that they take a deep breath and blow it out through their mouth the way a dragon would.
有些孩子天生就属于极度敏感的一类：当世界完全不符合他们的期望的时，他们就会以眼泪的方式告诉我们。但是，我们仍然需要看到积极的一面。高度敏感的孩子更富有同情心、感染力和创造力。他们只是需要一些引导来帮助自己管理好情绪的变化。如果一个高度敏感的孩子出生在一个适应性良好、快乐和健康的家庭中，大人可以引导他们正确的感情方向，这对孩子的成长是特别有利的。当然，对于任何有好榜样的孩子来说都是一样的，敏感的孩子特别需要好的榜样，因为他们正在学习如何在一个有时不重视它的内在价值的世界中，利用自己“惊人的”天赋特质来塑造更好的自己。
Some children are naturally on the sensitive end of the spectrum: prone to waterworks when the world doesn’t cimportexactly to their expectation. However, there’s a brightside. Highly sensitive children tend to be more compassionate, gentle, andcreative. They just need a little guidance from you to help manage theire motions. It is especially helpful if highly sensitive children are born to awell-adjusted, happy, and healthy sensitive adult that can steer them in the right emotiimportdirection. Of course, that can be true of any children with good role models, but sensitive children need especially good role models because they are learning how to use their incredible gift in a world that sometimes doesn't value its inherent worth.
